The current wife is taking me for a ride. Have 4 children who I'd do anything for (child support already from last court date). And now the wife decides she need some pendente lite money. Been separated for 11 months. Just received a half inch thick stack of fluff from her attorney demanding me to pay this, do that, bring this, show that etc. There is sooooo much information on the website that I truthfully don't know where to begin. Would love some help to intelligently make decisions and not have to enlist an attorney (acck). Anyone out there that can help?? I really need some guidance. I am a minister and am curious if there is a Sovereign way to divorce. Didnt have understanding the last time I was in court and thats what set me up for $207 per week child support. Now she needs alimony because of being underpaid(a MBA but making 22K). Jersey is a state that awards children to the mother so I only get the weekends. Now she wants to change it get $600+ per week spousal support and give me every other weekend with my children. 15 years of marriage to end up in court. Hearing set for June 6. argue I think a CAFV is the way to go but truthfully dont want to screw up more than I already have.